The fall semester starts the day after Labor Day, and my wonderful fiance assisted me in unfucking and reorganizing the Den of Creativity (DOC) so that I have study space.
Gone is my little corner desk, replaced by his 6-foot DJ gig table. I now have room for my laptop, desktop, tablet, and piles of books, binders, and notebooks. He was so sweet to give up his gig table for me, and I’m determined to make good use of it.
The cat litter box is now hidden away under a table, which I can use as a staging area when getting ready in the morning. The kitties seem to like the little extra privacy.
My pink file cabinet is no longer 4 junk drawers, but is tidied and organized and ready to receive my school stuff.
Since my closet is also in the DOC, I wrangled that mess as well. Even the rat’s nest of jewelry has been dealt with and sorted.
My fiance also set his DJ equipment up again, in a nice ergonomic way. He replaced all the old speaker wire and ran new, and all the blacklights (except for one) have been plugged in.
I love the way this room looks now. I’m tempted to rename the room the Den of Productivity!
And can I have some props for the jewelry organizer? :)
Last thing - can someone please tell me how to insert multiple pictures in Tumblr posts, side-by-side? I originally had this post with multiple large pictures one after the other, and hated how it looked so I created photo collages. I see people that have before and after pics side-by-side, and I don’t know how to do that!
For the side-by-side pictures, make it a photo post instead of a text one, and then you can drag and drop them in the right order. I think there’s a limit (ten, if I remember right) to how many pictures you can put in a photo post, though.
I keep bitching about wanting to have control of my space and dream about having a cute well decorated apartment, but reality is setting in. it takes a lot of work and time and discipline to get anything worth wanting.
The biggest hurdle right now is learning healthier cleaning habits. My mental illness (depression, anxiety, ptsd) has given me a steep learning curve, so i am overly experienced in some life skills but extremely deficient in others.
Now after getting in a healthier environment I have to un learn so many bad habits and it’s frustrating, and sometimes i wish I could just be normal.
I decided to do some 20/10’s. (20 minutes cleaning, 10 minutes of break) and I’m on my 10 minute break. i managed to get the dishes done at least, and once I got started doing more doesn’t seem as daunting I can clearly see where to start and how to finish. Hopefully I can get this place livable again. Hopefully.
Here’s the before
And here’s the after
It’s a small start, but at least it’s a start.
This doesn’t look like accepting your fate. This looks like making really significant progress! It looks great.
Hi! I have a request, if that's alright? Would it be possible to queue the unfuck tomorrow morning post twice? I find it really helpful, but as I'm in the UK it's 2am here when it posts, and usually when I see it I suddenly notice the time, panic, and have to get to sleep asap, so rarely get the list done (I know, I suck at keeping track of the time!) If you could that'd be awesome, thanks!!
Hi! Unfortunately there are about 40 time zones, so if I did the unfuck tomorrow morning and make your bed posts for every time zone, that would be 80 posts a day just on those two, and I don’t think I’d have any followers left to see anything else I might post.
What you can do, though, is set the post to reblog at the right time for you (when you go to reblog, use the blue dropdown that says “reblog,” hit “schedule” and then enter the day/time you want it to post). That way, it’ll pass your dashboard at the right time for you.
i have no idea if you answered this already or not, i tried looking for a bit, but i have pretty bad depression, and the days i have the energy to clean my room are very precious. even if i work for HOURS , there may only be another few square feet of clean floor to be seen, but no matter how much i tell myself that means i’m making steps to living better and that i need to allow myself the small victories, my parents have never in my life praised my work without tacking on “but it needs to be better, work more”. and as much as i tell myself they’re just trying to be encouraging, and that they have no way of conceptualizing that it hurts me so much and makes me feel so hopeless and helpless to solving the situation, it still makes me feel like it’s never going to be good enough for them. the few times i said as much, they basically said “well that sucks but it still needs doing”. is there a way i can better reach them so they understand, or that i can push through better?
First of all, so many high fives from me for doing what you can and making progress and for celebrating your victories, no matter the size. As far as the situation with your parents goes, it sounds to me like you’re doing everything right: you’ve talked to them and told them how their words make you feel, and you’ve acknowledged that their praise isn’t necessary for you to feel pride in what you’ve done. It doesn’t make anything easier, though, I know.
One of the difficult and shitty things in life is that we’re always going to have people who are working against what we’re trying to accomplish, whether it’s intentional or not. So my advice would be to try one more conversation, along the lines of “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all” and letting them know that their response actively discourages you from wanting to keep cleaning, and then leave it. If this has been a pattern throughout your life, I’m not sure it’s going to change anytime soon.
But you keep doing what you’re doing. Know that even if your parents aren’t encouraging you, there’s a whole lot of strangers on the internet who think what you’ve accomplished, and what you continue to accomplish, is worth celebrating. Make your own voice and the voices of people who support you louder than your parents’ criticism. You sound like you’re already mostly there.
This week, it’s back to the basics: put it away, not down. Save yourself from wasting time and creating a mess by dealing with every item you handle the right way, right away.
Don’t put that coffee cup down on the counter, wash it or put it in the dishwasher. Bringing purchases into the house? Put them away and stash the bags right away. When you kick your shoes off at the end of the day, put them back where they belong instead of leaving them wherever they fall.
Since I finished the living room challenge a bit early, over the last couple of days I’ve been just talking other projects that have been lurking at me. Feels so good to get things done! My current challenge is going to be getting the things I want to get rid of, actually out of the house!
Okay, so here’s a few pictures (on a bunch of stuff that I did today, I don’t have before pics):
Holy catfish, I just realized that I didn’t take pictures of the stuff I did on Thursday! Oh well - let’s just say that I tackled a major trouble spot on my kitchen counter that’s been growing and growing, and whipped it into shape. Mostly tossed stuff or put it away. There’s still a few things there, I’m not sure what to do with them, and when we hit the actual kitchen challenge, I’d like to get them all off the counter.
Okay, here’s yesterday and today.
The vitamin/OTC meds cabinet before:
Food storage and water bottles after:
This cabinet had a random assortment of crap in it. How it has cookie cutters on the top shelf (only the ones we use and like, will donate the rest), baking stuff and birthday candles on the next shelf, and the bottom two shelves are baking ingredients:
Here are some stuff drawers all cleaned out:
(I really should give up the sushi makers, we have them for a couple of years and not yet made sushi. We used to all the time, but we lived in the city and had access to the fixings. Now, not so much.)
I know it can’t last, of course, but for this moment, it feels pretty darn awesome!
So today’s challenge for myself was to get all the piles of stuff up and dealt with. Not just moved somewhere else, but actually dealt with. Here’s some before pics:
Pile O’Crap #1:
Note to self: I need A Place for my bag, sometimes I hang it on the bannister, but that does look messy, and often I just leave it on the floor.
Laundry Baskets O’Crap:
This is all the upstairs stuff that’s been migrating downstairs. All too often, I fill a basket and it sits for weeks. Like these have.
General Crap on the Furniture:
The Horror By the Powder Room:
This has all been sitting for far too long - all stuff to go upstairs, plus a backpack to be hung up, and my son’s rain poncho.
The Invisible Bin O’Crap:
I say invisible because it’s been sitting there for months. I hate it but just Could Not Deal. UNTIL TODAY!!
The view towards the front door:
And the whole living room (with furniture rearrange AGAIN):
The cup chairs:
And last, but not least:
Oooooo yeah, baby!! The HORROR IS GONE!
I also swept, mopped, vacuumed the rug and all the furniture, shook all the crumbs out of the cup chair cushions, etc. I found a veritable treasure trove of lego guys in the Big Green Chair, my son was so happy!
And so tomorrow…I begin on the piles in the kitchen and on that bookshelf by the dining room! But for tonight, I’m going out for dinner with some friends and having a large glass of wine!!
Q: I am often ill and overexertion makes me worse. When I’m having a bad time, the house gets squalid. Then when I feel better I CAN’T marathon, but slow and steady is slow. Are things like floor wipes and bathroom cleaning wipes really, really awful?
A: It’s really easy for someone to say, “Yes, those things are awful. Never use them.” But that’s not the whole story. It never is. (more…)
This week, identify your worst, most mess-attracting surface (dining room table? kitchen counter? coffee table?) and deal with it once and for all. On Day 1, do a few 20/10s to clear it off (it may take less time than you think), and then each day, make sure it’s cleared off and reset to clean at least once during the day. Mess multiplies, so don’t give it anything to build on.
Remember, when you clear it off, don’t just relocate the mess. Put everything where it belongs, or find a place for it to belong.