Prompted by recent criticisms, I would like to re-write some of the older posts from the archives that have been recently resurrected (including, but not limited to, the Fundamentals post) to be more inclusive and more representative of this blog as a whole and of Team UfYH as a community. That’s where you come in.
I’d like your suggestions as to how you could feel better represented, more motivated, and less disappointed by this blog. I do ask that you remain respectful, not necessarily of me, but of fellow Team UfYH members and of those who raised the criticisms in the first place. I regret that my first response was out of defensiveness and was hostile, and I want to do better.
As always, you guys are the best.
ETA: There’s a good chance I’ll get contradictory advice, so it may not be possible to incorporate everyone’s ideas. I’ll do the best I can, though.
What are your suggestions?
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amyunicorn001 likes this
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telegantmess likes this
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politeyeti answered:
I honestly don’t think they need rewriting. They are perfect just as they are.
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geekchick1013 answered:
CHANGE. NOTHING. UfYH has been a major inspiration, not only in unfucking my habitat but my whole life. And I never felt a moment of shame.
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somekindofbecca answered:
Just caught up on last night’s shit-fest. My only advice would be to stop referring to your own tactics as “shame”. They’re not. I know shame
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quietvoice said:
Don’t change a thing. I don’t know who the people who are complaining are, but I sure as hell don’t want them trying to speak for THIS person with a disability. I’ve got a big enough mouth to speak for myself, thank them very much.
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koala3d answered:
You are fabulous exactly as you are. I have a disability and find the system and the way you phrase things inclusive and brilliant!
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wherejudaswenttodie answered:
Maybe add a disclaimer about health at the beginning/end but otherwise I think you’re golden, seriously. All love to UFYH.
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xixdegrees answered:
Your advice and your delivery are both incredibly well grounded. Don’t rewrite a damn thing.
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emesbebe answered:
I got nothin’. You can’t be everything for everyone all the time. Part of being an adult is making things work for yourself.
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vexedquestions answered:
Don’t change. Whatever your issue is, you still should wipe up that raw meat juice on the counter and get your clothes off the damn floor.
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velvet-sinz likes this
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scatteringashes answered:
I wouldn’t change a thing, but I am self-described as completely lazy, so. It sounds like #4 of the Fundamentals is problematic in theme.
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houseofspoons answered:
As someone who deals with chronic pain and fatigue I love your approach. A disclaimer about health first would be good for some folks though.
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jellynotjam answered:
Don’t change a thing. Period. If your tone, suggestions, etc don’t work for some folks, they shouldn’t follow you. It’s YOUR blog, after all.
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riskofblossoming answered:
1. The tagline on your blog. Remove “lazy” b/c a lot of UfYH team members aren’t lazy, they are clueless or disabled or depressed
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erikadesigns answered:
I would maybe consider creating a UfYH account on If This Than That and then sharing your recipes so people in other time zones can set them.
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sunreon answered:
You are great about encouraging “Just do what you can but ffs do it” which is often in your posts but not the fundamentals.
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iregia answered:
I love it as it is! It´s UFYH for criying out loud! <3
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iregia likes this
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lollard likes this
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astartexx answered:
Don’t change your tone. You made me tackle projects I haven’t thought about before. My new mantra is, what can I unfuck today? It’s glorious.
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adelinedespanet reblogged this from unfuckyourhabitat and added:
too many feelings for a simple reply.) i think a general disclaimer that mental/physical health comes first and...
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jgetsittogether reblogged this from unfuckyourhabitat and added:
Don’t say something is “easy.” It may not be for...us. Don’t say we’re lazy or bad when we...
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imabtastic likes this
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jedijane26 reblogged this from unfuckyourhabitat and added:
you know what? i’m gonna agree with...general concensus of people who are stating
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lunacarmin answered:
I just keep thinking on “Do Something! No matter how small”. Keep it stupid simple (KISS)
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aliknits answered:
Keep calm and carry on. You’re straightforward and to-the-point, not shaming and judgy. You can’t (and shouldn’t be) one size fits all.
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redcloud likes this
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lawbyrd said:
The only thing to do is ask more disabled folks how they feel about the overall tone, and incorporate their feedback. It’s impossible to incorporate everyone, what some consider shaming is the guilt they don’t want to deal with projected onto you
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ghostferry answered:
i only just found you and i think you are perfect as you are. you’re not shaming with your tone at all.
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dichohecho answered:
Keep being awesome and don’t crucify yourself :)
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purpleterpsichore answered:
The great thing about this blog for ,
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thedisreputabledog likes this
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gradmom likes this
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lanwut answered:
You were amazing before, so you can only get better. No other comments :)
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doctorinvertsugar said:
In the fundamentals post the part where you say “cleaning isn’t hard” is just not true for those of us with chronic pain and disabilities, so that always felt shaming to me.
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daughterofthenorthwind reblogged this from unfuckyourhabitat and added:
blog? Short answer:...couldn’t. The no-nonsense, expletive-filled, Nike-ad “just
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megatronisajuggernaut answered:
I have to be honest that I don’t know if I have found anything wrong with your tone. Maybe I am just used to friends motivating that way. :)
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lavendermilkshake answered:
The internet will complain about anything. I like your no nonsense but still helpful and inspiring tone.
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fuckthepastryarchy answered:
People come to this blog just to tell them that they can and they will unfuck stuff, which is what the current blog is awesome at.
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xomiaamore answered:
the tone you use is no-nonsense but it does not say anything like what the criticizers said. maybe add a bullet about disabilities and such?
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mathcat345 answered:
I think it’s great! It has helped me quite a bit and if people want to drop in, there’s no more panic about it!
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